Dress up shoes

The other day a parent was relaying a story to me about her six-year-old son.

They were having a casual conversation when he suddenly said, “Mom, I know about S-E-X”…and then he raised his little eyebrows and said, ” I heard it is really bad.”

She was stunned!

What to do?

Take a deep breath and gently ask him how he came to this new knowledge. Then use this open door to replace what he heard with age appropriate information along with your important family values.*(if you have no idea how to do this, you might want to check out my resources…or read this blog from the beginning). Just try not to run out of the room screaming.

A few days later, maybe share a thought about shoes.


Ask your child to go to your closet and bring back your dressy shoes. Are these shoes good or bad? They are your nicest shoes, so you wear them to church, or to weddings, or on special occasions. You take care of them, so they will stay nice. What would be BAD is if you used them when you were walking the dog on a rainy day…that would ruin them.

Help your child to begin to understand that good things can be used in wrong ways, and therefore become bad, even hurtful. They weren’t intended to be that way. It can become a sort of game for them to look for things that get used in the wrong way…like soap in eyes, or Cheerios in noses..it goes on and on.

This can lead to great conversations in the future as you build on this idea!


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    Anna said,

    I love the shoe example, Mary Flo! Makes me think of a friend’s 4 year old daughter who recently put a small polished rock from her rock collection in her mouth because she thought it would be fun to suck on. Of course, she accidentally swallowed it! She was VERY upset, because she never intended for that to happen. Fortunately, the rock situation was, ahem, resolved, without any medical intervention. And she has promised to never, ever put a rock in her mouth again! 🙂

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    Paula said,

    Mary Flol!
    HI! It’s Paula Myers from Berkner!! It’s Paula Jackson now…. we’ve been married 24 years… 25 in November! Anyway….. love your blog, your lessons, love it all…
    I requested to be your “friend” on facebook – would love to get back in touch with you.
    Looks like everyone is well and happy! Congratulations on Meg’s pregnancy! How exciting! I just came across a photograph of me holding Meg waaaaaay back in time! She was such an adorable baby… I’m sure her sweetie will be so beautiful.

    Look forward to hearing from you … Paula Jackson (Myers)

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